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Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

Transformative Coaching 


 "For a narcissistic relationship to sustain, you have to cease being yourself.

It's that absolute. You don't get to be you."

~Dr. Ramani Durvasula


"Always be a first-rate version of yourself."


~Judy Garland





bluebirdsflycoaching.com 

Harmonizing
Conscious Uncoupling
and Calling in "The One"
with Self-Love Mastery
and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Worldwide



Melissa is currently training with Dr. Ramani 
Durvasula, 
the world's leading narcissism expert and New York Times bestselling author of It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People. 

Empathy and sensitivity, two of your most beautiful traits, render you vulnerable to the  emotional abuse of narcissistic relationships. 

If this has been your experience, you are not alone. 

And there is nothing wrong with you. 

The problem is the behavior of someone with a narcissistic personality style. 

Within the transformative coaching partnership, you will be expertly guided to heal from these toxic dynamics whether they be past, present or both. 

Paramount to the future,

you are now empowered to discern narcissism

and quickly spot "red flags."

 These include the silent treatment, bread crumbing, gaslighting,

love bombing, trauma bonding, blame shifting, word salad,

coercive control, circular conversations, hoovering,

devaluation, walking on eggshells and flying monkeys. 

Moving forward, you are safeguarded against becoming entangled

and stuck with partners (or dynamics) that are not good for you. 

On a foundation of unconditional self-love,

you will now create relationships characterized by empathy,

respect, safety, kindness, shared laughter,

reciprocity, growth, mutuality, deep connection and so much more. 

At last, you are safe to shine your light and be you. 

And your empathy becomes a superpower.


My Story


The scene: A dimly lit psychotherapist's office in Manhattan's West Village. 

As a New York University graduate student, studying to be a psychotherapist, I am wiping away tears and deeply confused. 

Despite trying very hard to do everything "right," I feel anxious and depressed. 

Having been raised and educated in Catholic schools, and always independently spiritual, I have fleeting moments of connection to my Divine Guidance.

Most of the time, though, I am diligently (and futilely) trying to prove myself worthy. 

And the relationship with a loving and empathic man, the true partnership that means everything to me, remains elusive. 

"What am I doing wrong?"

My therapist leans toward me thoughtfully. 

"Before you fall in love with him, Melissa, you must fall in love with yourself."

I nod in agreement and disappear onto Prince Street having no idea how to love myself.

In fact, I'm feeling more disconnected from myself (and a spiritual source of unconditional love) than ever before. 

It would be years (and a Dark Night of the Soul) before I understood what was actually happening: As a chronically self-abandoning empath, I was indeed suffering from a lack of self-love AND the fall-out of narcissistic abuse/antagonistic relational stress. 

Today, in my worldwide private practice featuring Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in "The One," I specialize in working with empathic people seeking to also heal from narcissistic abuse and master self-love.  

I believe that every client has the power to become the source of their own healing and transformation. 

I look forward to hearing your story and exploring the possibility of working together. 


 "Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all be a little more gentle with each other, and a little more loving, have a little more empathy and maybe we'd like each other a little bit more." 

~Judy Garland 


 bluebirdsflycoaching.com